“You can be anything you want to be, if only you believe with sufficient conviction and act in accordance with your faith; for whatever the mind can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve.”
– Napoleon Hill
The first book that sparked my spiritual journey was The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. For those who are unfamiliar with this book, it is all about the Law of Attraction (LOA). The LOA put simply states that “like attracts like.” What you put out into the Universe is what comes back to you and you attract to you things that are of a similar vibration/energy as you. I read it during my freshman year of college and it completely changed my outlook on life. Prior to reading the book, I felt rather powerless. I believed that I would always be a victim of circumstance and that some people were dealt better hands (lives) than others. But reading this book empowered me and helped me to realize that I am creating my life every step of the way consciously and subconsciously. We are always creating our realities whether we are aware of it or not.
You may be saying, “I would have never created this illness that I have.” Or “There’s no way I created that situation that got me laid off.” The truth is that you did. Of course, not consciously, but on some level of your being you energetically allowed this to manifest in your reality. The thing to keep in mind is that all challenges serve as lessons for us to learn and all things happen for our highest good. Therefore, what appears to be a setback is really a blessing in disguise. I share this with you not to blame you for anything that you have created, but to offer you to come into acceptance of that truth. By taking responsibility for the things that we have created in our lives and by not blaming others, we can change our lives for the better. You must trust that whatever you have created in your life in each NOW moment is there to awaken you and serve as a tool for your growth.
As referenced in The Secret, the creation process follows the simple steps of “Ask, Believe, Receive.” Ask for what you want, believe that it is already yours, and be open to receive it. I’d like to breakdown this process a little further.
The three tools of creation are thoughts, words and actions. Everything begins with a thought. Before you do anything, you always think to do it. You can use your thoughts to get clear and focus on that which you’d like to create. One such way to focus thoughts is through creative visualization. Creative visualization is a process that uses the imagination to mentally picture ideal outcomes and circumstances. The more clearly and vividly you can imagine it in your mind and the more energy you give it in thought, often times the more easy it will be to manifest it into physical reality.
Words are influential because you can use them to speak things into existence. One of the greatest tools you have for creation is the phrase “I am…” It is the strongest creative statement in the universe. Whatever follows “I am…” is what becomes of you. When you say things like, “I am tired” or “I am so dumb” you get more of that energy drawn to you. Use the phrase “I am…” to draw to you and create positive circumstances and situations. Affirm positive things with it. Some of the “I am…” affirmations that I use are: “I am in perfect health.” “I am a divine expression of life.” “I am light and love.”
Actions are often the clearest way that people can see creative power. If you get up and do something, then you’ve changed your reality right in front of you. However, all three components are equally important. When our thoughts, words and actions are all in alignment, we have a greater ability to manifest things into our reality. It is important to be mindful of all the components because you are always in the process of creating something. Speak only that which you wish to be true and focus only on that which you want made manifest.
In partnership with thoughts, words, and actions is belief/faith. This is a key ingredient in the creation process. You cannot create something that you don’t believe that you can create no matter how focused your thoughts, words and actions are. Belief is everything. You need an unwavering certainty that your desire will be made manifest. No doubts. No second guessing. You must know that it is already done. With this knowing comes gratitude. Be thankful in advance for what it is that you’d like to create and feel gratitude for it as if it is already there.
If there is something that you have created that you do not enjoy, own it and do not condemn it. Simply send it love and create a new thing. To reject any part of it is to reject a part of yourself. While you cannot control everything that happens to you, you always have the choice to see it how you wish. By following the creation process, you can create the life that you always imagined. From there, you can use your abundance and well-being to serve the world by helping others create and live their best lives.
“Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson
It has been quite a while since I’ve made a post on this site, but I have not forgotten about it. Stepping away for a minute, although unintentional, gave me the opportunity to learn more about myself and to reaffirm my purpose for creating this blog in the first place. I started this site with the intention of uplifting others. My goal was and continues to be to inspire others to be the best versions of themselves. With each post, I aim to spread love and light to those who are open and willing to receive it. As I read through the older posts, I feel as though my past year of writing provides a solid foundation for me to expand upon in 2014 with greater focus and purpose.
Looking back on 2013, I am grateful for the many expressions of love that I witnessed. The past year’s events have inspired me to more deeply share the divine love within and to live in purpose every NOW moment. Along with some of the reflective questions that I wrote in my End of the Year – 2012 post, some questions that I ask myself as the new year begins are:
How can I be of greater service to the world? In what ways, can I give and show support to another? How can I authentically express the divine love that I am?
In this new year, earnestly intend to give love and be love. Set out to be of service not for fame or reward, but with the understanding that the value is in the giving. Aspire to spread love to all of creation with every thought, word and action. In moments where you may fall short of your intention, forgive yourself and refocus on love. And if you feel as though your efforts are insignificant or not enough, understand that your positive energy always has an effect – even if you cannot recognize it.
For the past several years, I’ve started a practice of claiming that the new year will be the best year of my life so far. As I speak that into existence for myself, I wish the same for you. May your year be filled with an abundance of love, joy, and peace. Happy New Year!
“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”
– Lewis B. Smedes
Sometimes in life we have the experience of being hurt by someone else. This hurt is often the result of perceived dishonesty, betrayal, disappointment, etc. When dealing with strong negative emotions that cause hurt and pain, it can be easy to get wrapped up in them. One powerful way from which we can escape that emotional suffering is through forgiveness.
One of the most important (and sometimes one of the most difficult) ways that we can extend our forgiveness is towards ourselves. We all have had errors in our thinking which have led to mistakes in our actions. Many of us still hold our wrongdoings against ourselves. We feel guilt for our actions and their effects. However, guilt is a wasted emotion. There is never a reason to feel guilty about anything. ANYTHING. Let me explain…
Guilt blocks forgiveness. You cannot forgive yourself and feel guilty at the same time. Just as you cannot hold a loving thought and a fearful thought at the same time.
When you stay stuck in guilt long enough, it can transform into shame. This means that you move from feeling guilty about your actions to shameful about the person you are. If guilt becomes an emotion that defines you, then you may start to believe that you’re no longer a good person that made a mistake. Instead, you have become a bad person who can do nothing right. It only serves your ego to stay stuck in guilt. It does not honor the divine nature of the loving spirit that you really are. Guilt keeps you from fully loving yourself and from being able to truly forgive.
What is important is the acknowledgement of the error. The realization that you may have acted in a way that was not loving is all you need to make a different choice the next time. As we grow, so do the choices that we make. Reflection of our past mistakes can help us understand that we were acting under a more limited consciousness than what we currently have in our present state of awareness. In the moment of our mistake, we acted/reacted as best as our consciousness would allow. Understanding this concept can save us from a lot of self-inflicted guilt and shame.
Just as we should not judge others for their actions, we also should not be so harsh in judgement of ourselves. When we recognize an error in someone’s thinking, we should send that person love. And if it is us who has made the error, we should send love to ourselves.
You may be saying, “But this person intentionally tried to hurt me! How can I forgive him/her? How can I love him/her?” In these situations, I try to always remember the saying, “Hurt people, hurt people.” Only a person that is suffering through a lot of emotional pain could intentionally try and inflict hurt upon another. A person who is full in love would not seriously entertain the thought of trying to hurt someone else. When you come across a person who is in the midst of such hurt and pain, compassion for them is a helpful and loving response.
Some people also hold the notion that forgiving means that you’re allowing acceptance and approval of the mistake that was made. That’s not at all what forgiveness does. Forgiveness allows you to release the anger/frustration/blame/hurt that you have been holding so that you can return to the peace and love that is of your natural state. A lack of forgiveness does not hurt the trespassers, it only affects the one holding the animosity in their heart.
I have found that prayer can be effective in fostering forgiveness. I heard Marianne Williamson mention the practice of praying for your enemies for 30 days straight and it is something that I recommend to my friends when they are having difficulty forgiving someone. Embarking on such an honest devotion towards forgiveness can help to create new peaceful circumstances and new loving perceptions. I recommend praying for peace in the relationship, forgiveness in your heart, and well-being for him/her.
When we can allow ourselves to forgive, then we can move into a space of sincere love for the person we felt we were betrayed or hurt by. Forgiveness is a tool that allows us to shift our perception from fear to love. It allows us to see past the human imperfections and see the perfection in each divine soul. And if we all exercised forgiveness and allowed love to guide our perceptions, imagine all the beauty we would see in ourselves, in each other and on our planet.
“Love is what we are born with. Fear is what we learn. The spiritual journey is the unlearning of fear and prejudices and the acceptance of love back in our hearts. Love is the essential reality and our purpose on earth. To be consciously aware of it, to experience love in ourselves and others, is the meaning of life. Meaning does not lie in things. Meaning lies in us. ”
We live in a world of polarity. This polarity is most often noted by the duality in nature. We have male and female, up and down, left and right, large and small, short and tall, light and dark, night and day, etc. Although duality seems to be most obvious in our world of physicality, there is often a middle ground which makes our polarized spectrum one that’s more of a trinity than just a simple “this or that”. For example, between hot and cold is warm, and between big and small there’s medium. I think that the fairy tale story of “The Three Bears” and Goldilocks best exemplifies this. Without the complement, we wouldn’t be able to truly know what a thing is. And sometimes the best way to understand something is by realizing what it is not.
For me, one of my biggest revelations was being able to see how all emotions are extensions and expressions of either love or fear. These are the two extremes of the polarized emotional energy spectrum. Love or fear is the motivating force behind everything we think and do. All of the positive emotions that we have like joy, gratitude, peace, happiness, compassion, etc. are expressions of love. The negative emotions and feelings that we have like anger, sadness, jealousy, depression, self-doubt, etc. are all extensions of fear.
The connection of each individualized feeling to its root of love and fear may not be so obvious. But if you reflect on those moments when you have felt one way or the other, I think it becomes clearer to see how they are the grounding forces behind everything we do. Perhaps you may be asking, “What does being jealous have to do with being fearful?” When we are jealous of what someone else has or has achieved, what is really happening is that at some level, we are not fully seeing our own worth. We fear that we are not good enough to have what it is that we want, and in turn we envy those that do. This fear arises because we have brought into an illusion of lack–which is untrue because we live in an abundant universe–however, we think that if someone else has something, then there is less for us.
Love is the cure for fear. Fear and love cannot coexist in the same thought. You’re either moving in the direction of one or the other. Thankfully, at any moment you can choose to think another thought. Living with love will open you up to a world full of exciting experiences. On the other hand, fear keeps you trapped from being and fully understanding the love that you are.
As a whole, we have traveled so far from our true nature which is love. We have identified with something that we are not (fear) and in the process have created an understanding of love that is unlike what it really is. When I speak of love, I mean unconditional love. A love that is neither jealous nor controlling. One that requires nothing. A love that gives without any expectation of return.The fear-based reality that has dominated much of the human experience can be changed by choosing to be and express love with every thought, every word, and every action.
All actions and emotional reactions are a result of beliefs that we hold. When we believe that something is good, we react in a positive way and vice versa. The helpful thing about fear is that it shows you where you hold a belief that is out of alignment with your true self (love). You can use your fear as a guide post for seeing where you can change your beliefs and adjust the way you look at a situation in order to see it through a lens of love. Once you face your fears and transmute it through loving energy, you can free yourself of the fear that you once held towards that thing. In fact, the thing that you once feared could become one of your greatest pleasures or joys.
When I catch myself thinking a negative thought, I stop and remember LOVE. I don’t beat myself up for it. Instead, I just move onto to a thought that is in the direction of love. By consciously monitoring our thoughts, we can began to live our lives more consistently aligned with our true selves. When I notice a pattern of negative thoughts, I find it helpful to ask myself “What am I afraid of?” This springs honest reflection that allows me to get to the root of the pattern and shift my thinking into thoughts that are more in alignment with love and not fear.
Love is the only thing that is real. It is the truth and it is eternal. Fear is the biggest illusion. Although it seems real, it is not at all. Think of a time when you had to do something that you were terrified to do. Once you did that thing, everything that you feared about it, you probably did not experience. You survived through it and you can see that the fear was all in your head. When we realize that there is really nothing to be afraid of, we can move out into the world and perceive and respond to all events with love. Freedom from consistent fearful thinking will help us to see the loving light within us and to express that in ways that will help others recognize their own light, and ultimately make this world a more loving place for all.
I thought that it would be good to start off this blog with talking about a concept that is fundamental to our personal growth as human beings. This concept is that of “Self Love.” It is essential that we love ourselves. The way we view and how we feel about ourselves affects how we approach life and in turn affects how we create and define our experience.
The source of self-love does not come from the outside but from within. The compliments that we receive from people, the attention that we get from a significant other, and the care that we receive from our families may all make us feel good for that moment, but they are not and should not be the source of self-love. The same is true for our financial circumstances, our occupations, our GPAs, our age, our hair and the like. These are all changing/fleeting things. Self-love is rooted deep within us at the level of our souls. At our core, there is a knowing that we are love and that we are loved by The Universe. There is also an awareness of our true selves as creative, timeless, and infinite, spiritual beings. I find that although there are days when I do not feel very good about myself and don’t have very much self-like, I never fully lose the love I have for myself because it isn’t grounded or subject to my circumstances in the physical world. At any moment, I can go within and tap into my self-love at the center of my being.
Similarly, the quirks and perceived flaws that we have are not imperfections but rather they are those things that make us unique expressions of life. If you didn’t have those quirks about you, you wouldn’t be YOU. There is no other self that is exactly like you and that is special!
Regardless of your outer circumstances or personal character aspects, fall in love with yourself in this very moment! Love yourself so deeply that you never fall out of it. Make your self-love unshakable. Unbreakable. Unmovable.
I am not speaking about becoming a Narcissist but simply about understanding that you as you are is wonderful. Loving yourself is not saying that you are better than anyone else. Nor is it saying that you are a perfect person who has got it all figured out. It is simply saying that I recognize the miracle that I am, and I honor that through the love I give and show myself.
It is important to first love yourself because if you do not love yourself you can’t possibly love another. We all want to love those that are close to us. Our family, our friends, our significant other. But you cannot give, what you do not have. Fill yourself up with love so that you can give it to those around you freely. Sometimes in relationships it may seem as though you’re giving all you’ve got and your girlfriend/boyfriend isn’t giving you all of that back in return. It may be because they are holding back for some reason, or it may be because they are really giving all that they can. They may not have any more love to give you. So make sure that you are full, so that you can share your love from the deepest part of yourself. One of my favorite lines that relates to this is from a song by sounds_absurd called “More Wisdom”. The line goes: “…Can you please fill my cup so I can share it?” Brilliant, I say! Check out the song here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=10u2xg_GzfE
In the wake of the recent Sandy Hook tragedy, I truly believe that love is what was missing. Love for our neighbor as our brother and love for ourselves. There has been a heavy debate about gun laws and attention to mental illness and I believe that these conversations should be happening right now. However, I also think that there is a spiritual solution for every problem and that conversation should be happening too. Not only conversations, but forward action in the direction of love. When we are separate from our true nature, which is love, we tend to succumb to our negative emotions and negative experiences. However, a person that is grounded in love, knows where their strength comes from and knows who they really are. They know that no situation is permanent. And most importantly, they know that reconnecting with love is what will pull them through their dark times. Love is the answer to every problem. With a little more self-love, we could do more things that are empowering rather than continuing to do things that are destructive to our world.
We are all capable of finding that love within ourselves and becoming it. Using mantras is a great way to start a practice of changing an old belief to a new belief that better serves you. Look in the mirror and repeat: “I love and accept myself where I am right now“. This is a personal mantra that I use frequently. Even if you do not feel like you can love yourself right now or that you should love yourself right now, as your old beliefs shift, you will find it easier to look in the mirror, say those words, and mean it. Creating your own mantra is also a great way to re-mind yourself and establish a new belief.
Know that you are love. You are light. You are fully cared for and supported by the Universe. Love yourself today. Be kind to yourself. And go forward with love in pursuit of your deepest desires!