“You can be anything you want to be, if only you believe with sufficient conviction and act in accordance with your faith; for whatever the mind can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve.”
– Napoleon Hill
The first book that sparked my spiritual journey was The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. For those who are unfamiliar with this book, it is all about the Law of Attraction (LOA). The LOA put simply states that “like attracts like.” What you put out into the Universe is what comes back to you and you attract to you things that are of a similar vibration/energy as you. I read it during my freshman year of college and it completely changed my outlook on life. Prior to reading the book, I felt rather powerless. I believed that I would always be a victim of circumstance and that some people were dealt better hands (lives) than others. But reading this book empowered me and helped me to realize that I am creating my life every step of the way consciously and subconsciously. We are always creating our realities whether we are aware of it or not.
You may be saying, “I would have never created this illness that I have.” Or “There’s no way I created that situation that got me laid off.” The truth is that you did. Of course, not consciously, but on some level of your being you energetically allowed this to manifest in your reality. The thing to keep in mind is that all challenges serve as lessons for us to learn and all things happen for our highest good. Therefore, what appears to be a setback is really a blessing in disguise. I share this with you not to blame you for anything that you have created, but to offer you to come into acceptance of that truth. By taking responsibility for the things that we have created in our lives and by not blaming others, we can change our lives for the better. You must trust that whatever you have created in your life in each NOW moment is there to awaken you and serve as a tool for your growth.
As referenced in The Secret, the creation process follows the simple steps of “Ask, Believe, Receive.” Ask for what you want, believe that it is already yours, and be open to receive it. I’d like to breakdown this process a little further.
The three tools of creation are thoughts, words and actions. Everything begins with a thought. Before you do anything, you always think to do it. You can use your thoughts to get clear and focus on that which you’d like to create. One such way to focus thoughts is through creative visualization. Creative visualization is a process that uses the imagination to mentally picture ideal outcomes and circumstances. The more clearly and vividly you can imagine it in your mind and the more energy you give it in thought, often times the more easy it will be to manifest it into physical reality.
Words are influential because you can use them to speak things into existence. One of the greatest tools you have for creation is the phrase “I am…” It is the strongest creative statement in the universe. Whatever follows “I am…” is what becomes of you. When you say things like, “I am tired” or “I am so dumb” you get more of that energy drawn to you. Use the phrase “I am…” to draw to you and create positive circumstances and situations. Affirm positive things with it. Some of the “I am…” affirmations that I use are: “I am in perfect health.” “I am a divine expression of life.” “I am light and love.”
Actions are often the clearest way that people can see creative power. If you get up and do something, then you’ve changed your reality right in front of you. However, all three components are equally important. When our thoughts, words and actions are all in alignment, we have a greater ability to manifest things into our reality. It is important to be mindful of all the components because you are always in the process of creating something. Speak only that which you wish to be true and focus only on that which you want made manifest.
In partnership with thoughts, words, and actions is belief/faith. This is a key ingredient in the creation process. You cannot create something that you don’t believe that you can create no matter how focused your thoughts, words and actions are. Belief is everything. You need an unwavering certainty that your desire will be made manifest. No doubts. No second guessing. You must know that it is already done. With this knowing comes gratitude. Be thankful in advance for what it is that you’d like to create and feel gratitude for it as if it is already there.
If there is something that you have created that you do not enjoy, own it and do not condemn it. Simply send it love and create a new thing. To reject any part of it is to reject a part of yourself. While you cannot control everything that happens to you, you always have the choice to see it how you wish. By following the creation process, you can create the life that you always imagined. From there, you can use your abundance and well-being to serve the world by helping others create and live their best lives.
“Love is what we are born with. Fear is what we learn. The spiritual journey is the unlearning of fear and prejudices and the acceptance of love back in our hearts. Love is the essential reality and our purpose on earth. To be consciously aware of it, to experience love in ourselves and others, is the meaning of life. Meaning does not lie in things. Meaning lies in us. ”
We live in a world of polarity. This polarity is most often noted by the duality in nature. We have male and female, up and down, left and right, large and small, short and tall, light and dark, night and day, etc. Although duality seems to be most obvious in our world of physicality, there is often a middle ground which makes our polarized spectrum one that’s more of a trinity than just a simple “this or that”. For example, between hot and cold is warm, and between big and small there’s medium. I think that the fairy tale story of “The Three Bears” and Goldilocks best exemplifies this. Without the complement, we wouldn’t be able to truly know what a thing is. And sometimes the best way to understand something is by realizing what it is not.
For me, one of my biggest revelations was being able to see how all emotions are extensions and expressions of either love or fear. These are the two extremes of the polarized emotional energy spectrum. Love or fear is the motivating force behind everything we think and do. All of the positive emotions that we have like joy, gratitude, peace, happiness, compassion, etc. are expressions of love. The negative emotions and feelings that we have like anger, sadness, jealousy, depression, self-doubt, etc. are all extensions of fear.
The connection of each individualized feeling to its root of love and fear may not be so obvious. But if you reflect on those moments when you have felt one way or the other, I think it becomes clearer to see how they are the grounding forces behind everything we do. Perhaps you may be asking, “What does being jealous have to do with being fearful?” When we are jealous of what someone else has or has achieved, what is really happening is that at some level, we are not fully seeing our own worth. We fear that we are not good enough to have what it is that we want, and in turn we envy those that do. This fear arises because we have brought into an illusion of lack–which is untrue because we live in an abundant universe–however, we think that if someone else has something, then there is less for us.
Love is the cure for fear. Fear and love cannot coexist in the same thought. You’re either moving in the direction of one or the other. Thankfully, at any moment you can choose to think another thought. Living with love will open you up to a world full of exciting experiences. On the other hand, fear keeps you trapped from being and fully understanding the love that you are.
As a whole, we have traveled so far from our true nature which is love. We have identified with something that we are not (fear) and in the process have created an understanding of love that is unlike what it really is. When I speak of love, I mean unconditional love. A love that is neither jealous nor controlling. One that requires nothing. A love that gives without any expectation of return.The fear-based reality that has dominated much of the human experience can be changed by choosing to be and express love with every thought, every word, and every action.
All actions and emotional reactions are a result of beliefs that we hold. When we believe that something is good, we react in a positive way and vice versa. The helpful thing about fear is that it shows you where you hold a belief that is out of alignment with your true self (love). You can use your fear as a guide post for seeing where you can change your beliefs and adjust the way you look at a situation in order to see it through a lens of love. Once you face your fears and transmute it through loving energy, you can free yourself of the fear that you once held towards that thing. In fact, the thing that you once feared could become one of your greatest pleasures or joys.
When I catch myself thinking a negative thought, I stop and remember LOVE. I don’t beat myself up for it. Instead, I just move onto to a thought that is in the direction of love. By consciously monitoring our thoughts, we can began to live our lives more consistently aligned with our true selves. When I notice a pattern of negative thoughts, I find it helpful to ask myself “What am I afraid of?” This springs honest reflection that allows me to get to the root of the pattern and shift my thinking into thoughts that are more in alignment with love and not fear.
Love is the only thing that is real. It is the truth and it is eternal. Fear is the biggest illusion. Although it seems real, it is not at all. Think of a time when you had to do something that you were terrified to do. Once you did that thing, everything that you feared about it, you probably did not experience. You survived through it and you can see that the fear was all in your head. When we realize that there is really nothing to be afraid of, we can move out into the world and perceive and respond to all events with love. Freedom from consistent fearful thinking will help us to see the loving light within us and to express that in ways that will help others recognize their own light, and ultimately make this world a more loving place for all.